I often hear parents and grandparents say to a boy-child if he has fallen and is crying, “come on, behave like a boy”. Similarly, if a girl-child is being unruly, the remark is “come on, behave like a girl”!
Gender stereotyping them, begins at such a formative stage in our lives, that it is bound to create narrow, limited, fixed, and ultimately frustrated human beings. Imagine these children grown up! Do we feel they will be able to express themselves freely? Do we think that they will be ‘happy’ in their own skins?
I know I have talked about this in my previous posts as well. But the problem is so natively rooted that something needs to be done to correct it. The gender-divide is more in our heads than it is, in actual fact. It is why we refuse to accept the genders in certain ‘roles’. When a great chef is a man, pat comes the observation, “men are better at women in most areas that are viewed primarily as the purview of women”! Similarly, when there is a woman who has risen to become a Top Cop, or an Industry Captain, snide remarks such as “oh she’s hardly like a woman” are sadly inescapable!
Why the shoehorning? Why the boxing? Why a DEFINITION?
Let us UNBOX, UNDO, and SET FREE!